so.. towards the reading...
sometimes conflicts arises due to men wants women to think like them. and lady wants men to think like them ladies.
men touch .women emtional. if women want their partner to be emtional.. .then men want women think like a tough man... strong.etc.... yea. ..sounds so weird eh =.=
thats why....
thats not how he puts into words duh. im using my won simple words cos im no writer.
it makes sense though.
and this i liek too he did mentioned he's sure alot of couples can relate to that.
women shares and talks abt their probs. men stay in a cave . not talk. rather figure out solution and divert attention by reading news paper. .game ,sports etc
so soon exp names: after a logn day at work, when both reaches home,
mary talks. john stays quietly reading
soon, as time passes, mary feels ignored and neglated .
whilst john thiks mary talks too much.
tast becos they don understadn how each works. or perhaps john expects mary to be like him. whilst mary expect john to be like her(as a woman styel) which is to talk it out.
if they do understand, htings wouldve been alot more easier to understand.
and.. yea. sometimes i wonder actually. .adn feels kind abad when i talk to him abt my stresses and work..etc.. cos its as though im talking too much. i myself realized tht .like. .am i tlaking too much probs .. =/ many blogs ago i did mentioned this. if anyone can still remember lol
but yea. cos.. .i duno. compared to others, im more. ..how to say. my intuition and feelings are quite strong . i relies on them alot, and i trust them kinda.. and.. .thats why its sometimes hard for me.. .i always think of others before me. most of the time.
if i say this or if i do this, what would they think .or this could or shld be the way they will htink.
not saying all the times im right ya know. but yea..
o well .
so perhaps why. .i can reazlized c ertain thingy' liekthe above... but still... duh im no expert .no heavenly being. ofc i do feel ignoredand neglated too. which woman wouldnt. sometimes he also nvr msg me whole day mah .
wonder how guys think or feel. maybe oh one day she nvr msg me, its ok. notin much anyway.
mm.. .maybe?
anwyay.
one thing caught my attention though.
have to be careful with my words.
woemn are caring. so sometimes offers to help or provide solutions. but according to the book...
its not gd. big nono.
if john is driving for 30mins and is lost, mary says. why dont u call someone for help.
he will be silent for rest of jounery. and to him he's thinking u mistrust me of what i can do even such a lil thing.
for mary its mroe of like im trying to help u out in a caring and thoughtful way so we can both arrive on time and safely.
so yea. .see. u cant suggest that. .u know often i guess. but then he mentiones. .its all abt the approach and timing as well =.=. omg so chim .
so yea. .no impossible but still... yea...... .
that got me thinking ya know.
in this mall. sammy was pretty sure thats this honey birdette store. we couldnt find it. i suggested why dono we look for info counter. cos its v normal in sg anytinng we go there also directed customers to there for more info.
then he keep saying don wan. or nvr reply me. we walked right past the info counter .he also don wanna ask. he's pretty sure its somewhere in front somewhere. .finally we found it. =)
i wonde rif i ask sammy now will he stil lrememebr? or wonder how he felt at the point of time. hope he's not unhappy with me =X
i didnt know a simple suggestion will u knwo. end up making ur partner question ur intentions. thinking we don trust them to do a simple task.
sm suddenly talked abt her bf..
how he always make sure she cleaned her feet before going to his room .and cannot jump into his bed with her outing clothes.
haha. i was like. hey me too!
as in my bf too! does the same things. at first i tot perhaps its due to sammys mum a nurse ya know. .so maybe abitmore cautious abt hygienge or something. but yea they're pretty much the same haha.
also i cant let water splash too much ard basin he wouldnt like it.
so yea i have to be carefullor
ok back to the boo.k it says so too... men provides solutions to women who talk abt her probs. but guys feel confused when women say they don listen.
well. .women needs tomore hugs and empathy. more than solutions. cos guys is all abt solutions. trying to solve things and stuffs.
so theres this exp he gave. ..abt this .
mary came home form an exhausting day..and she wanted to share her feelings(women shares out feeling sand talk abt it) mary:* john:*
mary : so much to do tiring so last min tasks
john u shld quit find something u like to do
mary they expect so much
john don listen to them .just do hwat u can do.
mary i am! in the end i didnt get to call her aunt. feel so bad now=/
john oh she will understand
mary but u know what shes going through? .
john u worry to much thats why u are always unhappy
mary im not unhappy. why cant u listen to me?
john i am listening
mary why even bother
thas the negativ eone.. .
positive swt one is..
mary so much to do so stress.. . so many last min tasks wan me complete..
john pauses... then say hmm...
mary i evebn forgot to call my aunt
john narrowed his brows. .oh no.. =/
mary she need sme so much right now i feel so bad. ..
john.. you are such a loving person.. come here. let me give u a hug.. .
mary cries in his arms...
she then say.. .i love tlakint with u. u make merrly happy. thanks for listening.i feel much better .=)
yea i prefered the 2nd convo too.
i wouldnt like anyone saying ..oh u think too much. thats why u are always unhappy=.=
dots.
come to thinkof it... when i talked abt these ..cyber bullies or whatever.. .during a game they talked nasty stuffs abt me.
he wa slike.. .just ignored them. why care abt them.. .they're probably stupid kids. .
why care so much of what they say
what if he says to me.. .in a more gentle way.. of.. .yea. .thy're bad. its over now. how ar eu feeling. hope i can cheer u up.. wish i could hug u now.. i shall make them disappear if ii see them again
hahahahaha..... well... nah .not all partners are perfect duh. this is what so called everyones perfect dream of a perfect partner.
sometimes they can sometimes theyr'e not. cos wwe're just humans.
we all have expectations of our special someone.. .
books says. .
if we all learn to and respect our differences, there wouldnt be so many cases of broken marriages .
true. i said it many times and before.
compromise. communicate. and no matter how diff u are. respect that. one may be messy the other a too clean person, but still cna respect one another. dislike toothpaste outside of holder? just pratice and let it be inside the holder everytime after brushed.
either that or, u know wha tits ok. its jsut outside of holder . what harm can it done .just leave it there.
or what abt both ways. man left it out .woman left it in. vice versa. whats the prob.
all abt attitude thinkings and yea. .respect one another. and see the gd in the difference. .
kk.. .abt enuff haha. im liking this book alot. how i wish can ake him read it. hahah.XD don think he will ..
kk.
jaa mata
yea no wonder can soldover 15millions this book lor. only negative feedback he received is. .''why didnt i read ur book or get ur advice earlier''.
XD haha
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